SUNDOWN

June 25, 2016

Sitting on my deck at dusk, I notice the increase in bird activity in our back yard. Birds are darting to and from feeders, perches, and birdbaths--it's like ornithology happy hour. Apparently, chorus frogs also take it up a notch this time of day with their evening serenade.

Today's outrageous 105 degree temperature sent all creatures great and small seeking cover during the heat of the day. Relief finally came as the sun bowed out and the temps cooled down.

In Peachtree City Georgia, the Sundowners, as their casual group has become known, gather at the water's edge to watch the sunset each evening. The majority are lined up side by side in their golf carts taking in the view and chatting with fellow Sundowners. I can't think of a lovelier way to end the day.

But, there is something perplexing about this time of day called Sundowing. Sundowning is a known syndrome that affects those with mid to late Alzheimer's Disease. As if the disease were not bad enough, now what should be a most lovely time of day, often for those with later stages of the disease, becomes a time of increased agitation and confusion. Although not completely understood, fading light seems to be the trigger. (Symbolic isn't it?)The symptoms usually improve by morning.

Nearly everyone I know has experienced the loss of a loved one in some form or fashion to dementia or Alzheimer's Disease. Some attribute this to the fact that our lifespans have significantly increased, which also increases the chances of dementia. There's a saying, 'You have to take the good with the bad.'

The good for me is my father-in-law--I have adored him for more than 40 years. And the bad? You guessed it. Although, we have been told his failing heart will likely take him first. I suppose that is called a 'severe mercy.' So far, sunsets are still a good thing and we hope it stays this way. His favorite thing is watching John Wayne movies. And, the cowboy, after all, usually rides off into the sunset.

Here's wishing my sweet father-in-law and your loved ones happy trails and many more beautiful sunsets.

[Carolyn Fjeran, LowTide explorer/reflective writer; horticulturist & gardener; former writer for Cooperative Extension Service, Master Gardeners and The Newnan Times Herald]